why not heterosexual UNawareness month
pretend heterosexuals don’t exist for the WHOLE month
"How can you know you’re asexual if you haven’t tried sex?"
How do you know you won’t like hugging a cactus if you haven’t tried it? Go on. Hug a cactus. Maybe you’ll like it. Go hug a fucking cactus.
Minnie Rosa Bebb (British, 1857-1938) - Kittens Playing
There is something else I’ve never said, because it’s too deeply tied in with my own politics, and not something I would expect anybody else to understand.
And that is: humans don’t owe society anything. We were here first.
The idea of nail polish that detects Rohypnol being promoted as an “anti-rape” measure upsets people because there are already all sorts of products on the market that purport to prevent rape - mace, self-defense classes, keyrings that double as makeshift brass knuckles, specialized underwear - none of which have had the effect of substantially decreasing the rate at which people are raped.
Rape is also the only crime for which it’s socially acceptable and common, including for law enforcement authorities, to question the victim at length about in what ways her behavior might have “provoked” the assailant, or how she failed to adequately anticipate her assault and take protective measures against it.
The people who have mixed feelings on the nail polish have them because they’ve concluded the creation of yet another product that -
A. will have a negligible impact on the overall rate of rape, and
B. creates another excuse that can be potentially used against victims to paint them as negligent and therefore unworthy of sympathy (i.e., “why did you go to that bar without wearing your anti-rape nail polish?”)
- is an ineffective way to deal with the problem, in comparison to changing the overarching culture that demands rape victims go on character trial to show they were “good girls”, who did “enough” to protect themselves - by some arbitrary illogical standard - to deserve support and justice.
The one thing I really can’t stand is being given a long-winded explanation of why I shouldn’t/can’t do something, predicated on unsound reasoning or factually inaccurate information.
My brain: impulse control of a five year old, frontal lobe of Aristotle
Alexander McQueen Spring/Summer 1999, prosthetic legs legs carved out of solid wood
Cis straight white guy: “Oppressed people are too sensitive; they should be more like us and learn how to laugh at themselves”
Cis straight white guy: “Sitcoms are sexist against men for portraying comically incompetent father figures”
For someone else’s comfort -
Do not become small
For people who refuse to grow.
Let me be very clear about something: Surgery is absolutely not a requirement for or condition of trans*ness. For some people gender-confirmation surgery is a personal necessity, a life-or-death need. For others it’s not. For some the medical risks aren’t worth it. For some it’s a financial impossibility. And, believe it or not, some trans* people simply don’t want any kind of surgery. Each person is different.
When people ask whether she’s going to do “the full transition,” I most often reply now by saying that she already has. The important thing to remember is that there isn’t some kind of finish line. There’s not a day in the future when my partner will finally and completely be a woman. She is a woman now. Today. She is not a halfling. She is not transitioning: She has transitioned. Focusing further on the specifics of her genitals is just kind of creepy. Genitals do not make a person. While surgeries can help some people feel more comfortable in their skin, those people were already wholly the gender by which they identified before surgical intervention. Some women have penises. Some men have vaginas. That’s that.
|—||Trans* Surgeries Don’t Make the Man (or Woman) | Justin Ropella for the Huffington Post Gay Voices (via gaywrites)|